Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a type of talk therapy that helps individuals identify and challenge negative or irrational thought patterns, beliefs, and behaviors. By changing the way we think and behave, we can change how we feel about ourselves and the people around us. Therefore, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy teaches us new and more realistic ways of thinking to manifest a more realistic, positive, and productive mind space.
Automatic thoughts are thoughts that “pop up” in response to a situation or event. Many times we don’t even recognize them. They happen automatically. Automatic thoughts stem from core beliefs about ourselves and the world.
For example, if our core belief is “I’m unlikeable” then we might automatically assume that others don’t like us even if there is little evidence to support that belief.
Imagine Sally and Dave go on a first date. Sally might have the core belief that she is unlikeable. When Dave shows up late to the date due to traffic, Sally might automatically interpret Dave’s tardiness to mean he doesn’t like her. She might become anxious and upset based upon a completely false belief (i.e., Dave was late because he really was stuck in traffic).
One can see how automatic thoughts might influence how we feel…
The core belief “I’m unlikeable” will drive the types of thoughts Sally has in various situations.
Because Sally doesn’t believe she is likeable, she might automatically think Dave doesn’t like her when he is a few minutes late. This might make her feel discouraged, anxious, rejected, and insecure.
Core beliefs are the central beliefs we have about ourselves, others, and the world around us. These beliefs act like a lens through which we experience life. This means people with different core beliefs might be in the same situation, but think, feel, and behave very differently. Even if a core belief is inaccurate, it still shapes how we see the world.
Harmful core beliefs lead to negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. CBT aims to identify and challenge harmful core beliefs.
Cognitive distortions are the thoughts we have that aren’t entirely true. They represent the ways in which our lenses can become clouded or “distorted.” All of us know how negative thoughts can influence how we feel. We all experience cognitive distortions in our every day lives to varying degrees. Some of us experience them more than others and sometimes they can be so severe they end up hurting us emotionally.
Below are examples of cognitive distortions and how we might correct those distortions through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Common Cognitive distortions
Making broad interpretations about something from a single event or occurrence.
Example: “I didn’t perform well on my math test. I suck at math.”
Believing that doing something or thinking something will influence unrelated situations. (Commonly seen in those with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
Example: “If I don’t say this word four times then my family might be harmed.”
Assuming that emotions reflect the way things actually are.
Example: “I feel like a bad husband, therefore I must be a bad husband.”
All or Nothing Thinking
Thinking in absolutes such as “always”, “never”, or “every”.
Example: “I will never be good at basketball.”
Believing you are responsible for things that are outside of your control.
Example: “My wife is always upset. It is all my fault. She would be fine if I did more to help her.”
The belief that things should be a certain way.
Example: “I should go to the gym today.”
When you recognize only the negative aspects of a situation and ignore or minimize the positives.
Example: When you give a presentation and people compliment you and you immediately reply with “yea, but I think it went on too long and wasn’t interesting.”
Immediately assuming the worst case scenario in any situation.
Example: “My boyfriend didn’t call me last night. He is cheating on me.”
Believing the rules for others shouldn’t apply to you.
Example: “I don’t have to go to school and receive a degree in that because I already know the information.”
Assuming you know what others are thinking or feeling.
Example: “He thinks I am stupid and worthless. I just know it.”
Drawing conclusions based on just one of many elements of a situation.
Example: “The lady at the front desk of the hotel wasn’t very nice. This whole trip is going to suck!”
Drawing conclusions when there is little or no evidence to support it.
Example: “The nicest people in the world are _____”
Acceptance of thoughts and moods really just means observing without judgement. This can be a great alternative to our tendency to immediately evaluate, judge, and critique them.
Although this barely scratches the surface of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), it gives you an idea of what it is and how we apply it. In summary, CBT is a type of therapy based upon the idea that our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings/emotions influence each other in complex ways. CBT is a time-limited, structured, and goal-directed therapy designed to help identify negative thinking patterns that contribute to troubling mood states.
- The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD by Jon Hershfield
- Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schwartz MD
- Mind Over Mood by Dennis Greenberger